Our individuality and “real personality” is found in Christ.

CS Lewis: “The more we get what we now call ‘ourselves’ out of the way and let Him take us over, the more truly ourselves we become. …The more I resist Him and try to live on my own, the more I become dominated by my own heredity and upbringing and surroundings and natural desires. In fact what I so proudly call ‘Myself’ becomes merely the meeting place for trains of events which I never started and which I cannot stop. … I am not, in my natural state, nearly as much of a person as I like to believe: most of what I call ‘me’ can be very easily explained. It is when I turn to Christ, when I give myself up to His Personality, that I first begin to have a real personality of my own.” (Mere Christianity, “The New Men”)(See also Power of Yielding, p. 119)